My personal leadership journey: inspiration for leadership & life
  • Home
  • No such thing as reality
  • Loving what is
  • I believe in disruption
  • Disruption = discomfort
  • Organizational drama triangles

organizational Drama Triangles

Organizational Drama Triangles

6/2/2018

0 Comments

 
The drama triangle is a concept that describes a pattern in human relationships. It describes 3 roles that can be taken in an interaction, more than one role can be assumed by the same person (I can even have a drama triangle interaction with myself): 
  • victim: the role that feels hurt by what someone else has done
  • villain: the role that has caused the pain in the victim
  • hero: the role that the victim turns to who takes responsibility to address the villain's wrongdoing  
It is a normal pattern and will non-consciously happen to some extend in almost any interaction and relationship. One of the frequent examples I come across in organizations is negative talk about the organization, a function (e.g. HR) or a boss (research shows that US employees spend 1-2 hours weekly complaining about their boss) and the nodding and agreement and the usual adding on to the complaints. Apparently it is rewarding to share irritations or annoyance with others and get recognition for it. 

When does the drama triangle become dysfunctional for a culture of individual accountability? 
My findings in this inquiry are that whenever there is a lot of "talk about people", "others addressing issues instead of the person that has the issue" or "HR is becoming the messenger for issue addressing", the organization might have fallen into the trap of the drama triangle which stands in the way of taking responsibility to address issues directly, an open culture, transparency and ultimately trust. 

What can you do to change the drama triangle? 
As a leader whenever you hear feedback, critique or just some comments about a person not present in the interaction, acknowledge what you hear and friendly invite the person who has the feedback to share this with the relevant person. Come back to whether he/she has shared the feedback next time you see your colleague. If someone finds it difficult to share feedback, practice together. Sometimes it might help to just ask the person in question: "what would you like to be different?".

How to prevent drama triangles from becoming dysfunctional and create a healthy culture? 
A robust and constructive feedback culture lies at the core of any healthy, fast-learning and high-performance organizational culture. The more leaders of an organization give an example in ASKING for feedback and creating openness for the exchange of perceptions the more people will do the same and create a culture of dialogue & learning.

What can you do to make feedback part of everyday organizational reality?
...that is another blog...:-)        
0 Comments
Proudly powered by Weebly
  • Home
  • No such thing as reality
  • Loving what is
  • I believe in disruption
  • Disruption = discomfort
  • Organizational drama triangles